Deal With It.
Breathe.
All I can think about right now is “We’re going to do what again?” We are going to have another baby, which means no sleep (on top of the lack of sleep I get now from a toddler), no free time, fewer dates night, more crying and pulling-out-of-the-hair, more diapers and more chaos. I love my little girl, but until this morning I’d forgotten how much I hated the newborn stage. And we haven’t even had the newborn yet.
Can’t I just blame Matt for this situation and move on with the 6 months-not-moving-yet-smiling age?
Or maybe I’ll just blame today for being crazy. I’ll blame the vacuum cleaner for sucking (haha, pun intended) and Enora’s molars for emerging so slowly. I’ll blame the car for not working and leaving us at home and the weather for being too cold for my wimpy self. Or maybe I shouldn’t blame any of these things and I will just shoulder the responsibility as it comes, not getting worked up over something that hasn’t happened yet or things that I cannot change.
It IS overwhelming to think about having a newborn again, especially with a very active toddler crying for more chocolate and Shaun the Sheep. It IS going to be tough to not sleep, have boobs that hurt all the time, a baby that might cry and a lack of conversation and sex with my husband. Life IS going to be crazy, the house IS going to be dirty and the weather might not get any warmer. But freaking out isn’t going to make it any easier.
So, Amy, shed your tears, let Enora play in her crib for a while, take a shower, dab on some makeup and deal with it.
mama it’s tough. i won’t lie it’s a new challenge but also there are more cuddles, more hugs, more kisses and lots more love. Plus I promise it will seem easier than the first time around. Not that anything will necessarily be different except for you. You will be more confident and more knowledgeable. More Relaxed and More Comfortable. You’ve done this before and can do it again.
Babies sense when you’re nervous or anxious and react in a similar manner. When you are relaxed and calm they react similarly as well.
So while the next few months are very hands on and hard. Dig in, plant yourself firm and be confident that you are an amazing mother and you CAN do this. Not just barely getting by but enjoying the journey.
February 10, 2012 at 5:42 pm